Custodial Parents

If a Court has ordered someone to pay you child support

What is a Custodial Parent (CP)?

The parent who has primary residence of the children or who is owed child support through an Administrative or Court Order is referred to as the "Custodial Parent" or "CP" for short.

DSER's services are primarily geared toward helping the CP obtain financial support for the children living in her or his home. As a CP, you have a very important role in your child's life!

Services for Custodial Parents

Learn about child support services that may be available to you as a custodial parent, including: Full services for TANF and non-TANF recipients, limited services for income withholding orders, and Medical Expense Reimbursements.

Full Services - If you receive TANF benefits

Because DHHS sends State money to your household as a public assistance grant, you will "assign" your right to child support to DHHS to pay back that money. In other words, the other parent, who is obligated to financially support your children, will send child support to the State to reimburse the money sent to your household by the TANF program.

Full Services - If you do not receive TANF benefits

If you have never received TANF benefits on behalf of your children, or if you have received TANF and no longer need it or are now ineligible to receive it, you may apply for full services and receive paternity, establishment and collection/enforcement services from DSER. See a detailed Guide to DSER Services

Limited Services - income withholding orders

In a limited services case, if you or the other parent serves an income withholding order, the Department will process those payments. The Department's only responsibility on a limited services case is to accept and disburse payments. The Department will keep records of payments received.

Please note: In these cases, DHHS does not locate the other parent or the other parent's employer, serve income withholding orders, intercept the other parent's tax returns, gambling proceeds or lottery winnings, attach unemployment compensation or workers' compensation payments, lien property, or take the other parent's licenses if the he or she fails to pay child support. The Department provides this help only in a full-service case.

If you receive limited services and would like us to employ the methods above to collect your child support, you may ask for full services at any time by filling out an application.

Medical Expense Reimbursement
If you would like DSER to help you receive reimbursement for medical bills which your support order requires the other parent to pay or share, do the following:

  1. Notify the non-custodial parent of the paid bills in writing, enclosing copies of them, and requesting payment or the making of a satisfactory arrangement for payment of the non-custodial parent's share of them within 30 days.
  2. If neither payment nor satisfactory arrangement for payment is made within 30 days from date of mailing of the letter to the non-custodial parent, mail a copy of the letter and the paid bills to, Case Review Unit, DSER, 11 State House Station, Augusta, Maine 04333. Be sure to keep a copy of all documents for yourself.

    In your cover letter, please remember to give your case number and the date you mailed the letter to the non-custodial parent. The Case Review Unit will forward this material to the enforcement agent handling your case, and DSER will then take steps to establish an enforceable legal debt against the non-custodial parent for the reimbursement to which you may be entitled.

You can help DSER in its efforts to obtain medical expense reimbursement for you by doing the following:

  1. Always include an itemized calculation of what is owed to you.
  2. Do not submit bills to DSER more than once every six months, unless the new un-reimbursed amount is high; and
  3. Do not keep un-reimbursed bills for more than two years before submitting them to DSER.
  4. Remember that DSER cannot seek reimbursement for any medical bills that you haven't paid yet.

Enforcement tools
DSER has a wide range of mechanisms to encourage parents who are ordered to support their children to keep current on their child support obligation.

This includes tools not available to collection agencies, such as:

  • garnishing wages,
  • seizing assets,
  • intercepting tax refunds,
  • liening property and
  • taking professional, recreational and automotive licenses and passports

If you contract with DSER, you allow us to use these methods to help collect child support for your children.

DSER will help you to modify your case when necessary, and will go to court as a representative of the Department when the parent who owes you child support is habitually behind or "in arrears." DSER may ask a Court to force the other parent to seek work, or, in very extreme cases, to send him or her to jail for chronic non-payment of support. Assistant Attorney Generals represent DHHS's interests in these matters. If you would like representation of your own interests, you may hire an attorney.

A note about the Special Responsibilities of the CP: You are primarily responsible for ensuring that your child's day to day needs for growth and development are met, and sometimes must do so on a limited budget. In addition to your love and emotional support, physical presence and assurance that you will always be there when your children need you, remembering not to cast a negative light on the other parent, even if he or she is late or delinquent in paying child support, will help to ease the stress of separation for them. Remember to put your kids' needs and feelings first, even if you are angry, frustrated or hurt over the actions of the other parent. Your kids will thank you for your unselfish devotion to their needs during what is a difficult time for the entire family, and for keeping them out of the middle of an adult dispute.