How to Help a Friend or a Relative

If someone you know is gambling for more than fun, they may have a problem. Talking to them can seem scary, but they need you to have courage. Here are some ways to begin the conversation:

Find a comfortable place to talk where you
won’t be disturbed.
Keep it simple and straightforward.
Tell the person you care about him and you’re
concerned about how he is acting.
Tell the person exactly what she’s done that
concerns you.
Tell the person how his behavior is affecting
other people—and be specific.
Be clear about what you expect from her
(“I want you to talk to someone about your
gambling.”) and what she can expect from
you (“I won’t cover for you anymore.”).
After you’ve told the person what you’ve seen
and how you feel, allow him to respond. Listen
with a nonjudgmental attitude.
Let the person know you are willing to help,
but don’t try to counsel him yourself.
Give the person information, not advice.
Encourage her to call the National Problem
Gambling HelpLine.

When Their Problem is Your Problem:

If you are the spouse or family member of a problem
gambler, it is important for you to take care of yourself and realize that you are not responsible for the gambler’s behavior. Even if your loved one isn’t ready or willing to get help, you may want to call the Problem Gambling HelpLine or talk to a counselor yourself.

Make the Call

A problem gambler doesn’t necessarily need to “hit bottom” to decide to get help. To get specific advice on how and when to approach the problem gambler you know, call the National Problem Gambling HelpLine.

If playing isn’t fun anymore, call for help.
National Problem Gambling HelpLine:
Free. Confidential.
24 hours a day.
7 days a week.
1-800-522-4700

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How to Help a Friend or a Relative

When Their Problem is Your Problem:

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